6 Steps in a Cycle of Change and how Hypnotherapy can help you Make That Change.
You’ve arrived at that point. To here and no further.
We often find ourselves at points in a cycle of Change. But we never break through. Let me share why, and how you could.
You feel trapped.
You’ve arrived at that point. To here and no further. You type that letter of resignation but you never hit “send.”
Every Monday morning you get out of bed feeling like you’ve been hit by a bus called “Weekend.” But, whether you partied on a rooftop like it’s the end of the world, or spent 10 hours in meditation and ate lentil soup, you still feel like you need another day to recover.
You feel trapped.
And nothing seems to help.
You’re probably caught in a looping change cycle.
The Cycle of Change.
See, when we seek, earnestly seek to Change our lives there’s a cycle we go through.
1. The Splinter in Your Mind / Discontent.
You know something is wrong. You feel ever more unsettled, unhappy with one of the areas in your life. Maybe its work. Maybe its your weight. Maybe it’s the flower-arranging committee. You’re unhappy and you know it.
But you tolerate it. You make excuses. I mean, it’s familiar, right? It’s comfortable. You fear the Change because it means a loss of comfort. You may fantasize about writing that e-mail, though. Ah, how nice it would be to be free… Is there a red pill out there, somewhere?
2. Breaking point.
Your frustration builds to a point where, due to exhaustion, or something dramatic, your breaking point is triggered. You just burned an entire weekend preparing that report and now Janice wants to know why you used a binder clip instead of staples! And can she have the report in green, please?
You google “Morpheus” and “red pill.”
3. Decision.
You’re ready. You dust off your CV. You start looking around. What if you cashed in that one policy and finally bought the food truck? You take the first steps which gives you a brief period of hope. That e-mail is partially written, at least in your head. You have hope! You dare to dream you could be free. No more staples! You have a recipe for the red pill.
Now that you’ve made that decision, doubts will come. They will whisper in moments of terrifying darkness.
They will weigh upon your heart and discourage you. They will tell you that the familiar is safe and comfortable.
But they wouldn’t be whispering to you if you hadn’t made a move in the first place. They wouldn’t be trying to drag you down if you hadn’t already lifted off. It takes a lot of energy for a rocket to get off the ground. But maybe, what you think are the voices of doubt are just the screams from the rocket.
4. Fear
One morning that hope is gone. Engine failure. Warning lights everywhere! Just a week later! You’re facing your anxiety and fear now. This idea of yours… Well, how will you pay off the RV? The Boat? What about the kids’ schooling? You’re the breadwinner. Where does the bread come from without you? You tell yourself you have a Code to live by. You are a provider! You will sacrifice your freedom for your family. Staples rule your life.
Is that so bad? Red pills might get stuck in your throat and you don’t like medication anyway.
But deep inside you feel trapped and helpless.
5. Amnesia
What were you thinking? Phew! Glad that’s over. The e-mail gets erased and you forget all about the red pill.
What’s wrong with the comfortable and familiar, anyway? This is part of your identity… all those funny stories around the water cooler. You? And intergalactic explorer? Psha!
6. Backtracking
You’ve talked yourself out of it. You don’t even have time to think about it because Janice wants that report in red, now. You slipped yourself another blue pill. It’s better this way.
But your soul is weeping.
And it won’t be long before that splinter in your mind bugs you again.
Now that you’ve made that decision, doubts will come. They will whisper in moments of terrifying darkness.
What would your life look like if you didn’t continue looping through a cycle of change?
How you can break through.
Why did you do it?
If you’re read this far, you’ve probably found yourself at one or more of these points in the past. And you might even be looping through them weekly or even daily. So why did you never take the red pill?
Firstly, there’s your brain.
Your brain has one function: To keep you alive. It keeps you away from the unfamiliar because, from an evolutionary perspective, the unfamiliar meant uncertainty which meant death. More often than not we fear change not because of the change itself, but because the familiar is just… easier.
But that’s not the only reason.
Secondly, there’s a deep core belief that you’re not worthy; or that (something) is just not for you. (Those things) happen for other people but not for you…
Is that true?
If that’s a core belief held by your subconscious mind, then yes, it’s true. For you.
That’s where hypnotherapy can help. By accessing your subconscious mind we can access that core belief.
Even better still, we can Change it.
And we can give it a new one.
What if you could access all of that energy and make it work for you? What if you can finally lift off the launch pad into the expanse of a new and wonderful adventure?
What would your life look like if you didn’t continue looping through a cycle of change?
Conclusion.
Deep-seated, debilitating core beliefs, held in the subconscious mind can hold you back from achieving what you want in life; or at least from living it more fully. Hypnotherapy can help you get out of your own way.
And then maybe… you’ll take the red pill.
If any of this has resonated with you, and if you’re yearning to make a change, book a discovery call with me. It’s only about 20 minutes and its free. Maybe 20 minutes could change the next 20 years. Maybe you don’t have to panic to change your life.